At this point in the year, we may feel ourselves being sucked into the negative vortex that circles around some people.
I like this Polish proverb and its reminder that we can keep ourselves separate from other people's drama.
Some stuff is simply not ours.
Learning to feel where we begin and end, and where those around us begin and end, can be a wonderful tool. In our home, and our workplaces, when we know what is our junk, and we can feel what is someone else's, then we can steer ourselves through sticky situations more easily.
Our three year old's tantrum? It's likely not to be our circus, or our monkeys, even though it will definitely be impacting us! Our partner's rubbish mood after an equally rubbish day at work? Not our circus, or our monkeys. The stuff that person at work always seems to stir up around themselves? Just not our circus. And most certainly not our monkeys.
We are all definitely impacted by the presence of a circus that's happening right in front of us. Like our toddler's tanty.
However, reminding ourselves that it's not our rubbish can help us draw on our better Self.
Rather than getting sucked into the midst of the vortex in front of us, we can feel our separation from what's going on, and support the person.
Or simply remove ourselves from what's happening.
Draw good boundaries around ourselves.
And simply leave circuses and performances that we don't want to attend.
Arohanui
Contact me: Lorraine Dodd: Counsellor in Howick, Auckland 0221 874 057, through the contact section http://lorrainedodd.wix.com/lorraine-dodd by email nurturinghope@gmail.com or Private Message me through Facebook
