Reframing.
Taking something and placing it in a different environment. It's a reasonably straightforward thing to do, but can bring a radical and wonderful shot of new energy.
And we can bring the same change to our Self.
Changing our language can support us to reframe our Self, and our world.
A great place to start is by weeding "Should" right out of our vocabulary.
"Should" is one of those toxic words that we frame around anything we really don't want to do. "I should get out of bed." "I should clean the house." "I should do the garden."
However, "Should" acts as tricky poison. Whenever we finally do tackle the task that we have been resenting and wishing we could avoid, we condemn ourselves to feeling embittered, annoyed and unhappy for the duration of the task.
Reframing means switching "Should" for more deeply truthful words. "I want to complete this part of my job, because my job is important to me and my family." "I choose to do this thing for this person because I value them in my life." "I support my partner in their endeavour because I love them."
Reframing is not about losing power, and becoming a Pollyanna who is pleased about everything and who goes along with everything. It's about deeply claiming ownership for the elements of our lives. If at our deepest level we cannot find a place of acknowledging that the task does meet one of our needs, if we deeply, truly and honestly don't want to do something, then draw an honest and firm line, and say no.
Reframing will support us to truly take ownership of our Self. It places us in charge of our Life, instead of allowing outside energy and demands to push and shove us around. Wanting to do things, rather than having to do them, will allow us to work with and harness our inner energy.
Reframe our language, and we will reshape how we experience the world.
Arohanui.
Contact me: Lorraine Dodd: Counsellor in Howick, Auckland 0221 874 057, through the contact section http://lorrainedodd.wix.com/lorraine-dodd by email nurturinghope@gmail.com or Private Message me through Facebook
