Stuck.
It can be so easy to get stuck in patterns of behaviour.
The Drama Triangle in this image was first described by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the late 1960’s. It's as current now as it was then, since it's one of the most common patterns of behaviour that we can get stuck in with another person.
Have a good look at the image, and think about our key relationships. Or that relationship at work that just doesn't run well. Recognising we are in a pattern of behaviour that is unhealthy is the first important step.
The next step is to alter our own behaviour. Changing our behaviour will lift us out of the triangle, and will break the the forces that have been entrapping us in the negative, apparently impossible to escape, trap.
Some strategies to support us to alter our own behaviour are: Clearly state boundaries: "I have 10 minutes available for our discussion." Make expectations clear: "I want you to keep your agreement. Please have that done by Tuesday." If the other person can do it, let them: "I know you can do this."
As we move to healthy modes of communication, we will move out of the triangle.
We can be the one to bring the change.
Contact me: Lorraine Dodd: Counsellor in Howick, Auckland 0221 874 057, through the contact section http://lorrainedodd.wix.com/lorraine-dodd by email nurturinghope@gmail.com or Private Message me through Facebook