Sometimes we just need to step outside ourselves to get a different perspective.
Especially when we are experiencing conflict.
At times like that, physically moving to another, neutral spot can do wonders for bringing us to a different perspective, and to a calmer place. The different energy present in a different spot can lift us out of the tight, small place where we have been gripping on to our hurt, and onto our story about the wrongdoing that has happened to us.
Moving to an space outdoors would truly be ideal, since the fresh air really does blow away a lot of tension. Often that's just not possible, so finding the most neutral place possible can be a workable alternative. The garage or porch may work, since these areas tend to have less triggers to fuel further discontent. The counselling room can also function as neutral, safe territory for families, couples and individuals.
But even without moving to a physically different spot, there is great power in relinquishing our place of "Being Right". Sometimes that place carries physical energy that buzzes around in our head. Relinquishing that position can happen when we move to gentle, whole belly breathing. In that Whole Belly Breathing Space, we do find a neutral field within ourselves. We find a place where we can look above and beyond all that has just seemed so important.
At times of conflict with others, or within ourselves, let's find that calm, neutral space within ourselves.
Wisdom seems to dwell there.